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June 21, 2017

Fed is Best

I’ve been wanting to write about this topic for a while, but somehow couldn’t find the words. Last night as I was feeding my 3 month old, who wanted nothing to do with nursing and instead wanted a bottle. I realized something pretty simple, whether you bottle feed, breast feed, nurse in public, nurse in your car, formula feed or nurse with a blanket covering you, A FED baby is a HAPPY baby!


There is so much pressure out there to breast feed, to breast feed for a certain length of time, 3 months, 6 months, a year. But if you nurse for too long, you’re crazy. There is so much pressure to make enough milk, to make 3 oz, 5 oz, to drink lactation teas and milks to ensure your supply stays up. There’s nipple shields, all sizes of pump funnels, manual pumps, electric pumps, lanolin cream in case your nipples are sore, cracked and overall just plain hurt. If you can’t make enough milk then you’re doing something wrong?!

There is so much pressure to formula feed, if you’re not making enough milk why aren’t you just switching to formula?! Why even TRY to breastfeed and stress yourself out?! If you’re doing formula why would you even nurse at all?! Did you get the sensitive formula, the FULL of iron formula, powder or liquid one?

Do you see my point yet? There is an OVERWHELMING amount of info for breastfed AND formula babies. And there is also a TON of opinions about both! But maybe, just MAYBE the only opinion you need is YOURS. As a mom its okay to say “Hey you know what, I don’t make enough milk, so I am going to switch to formula” Or MAYBE it’s okay to say you know what I enjoy nursing and will stick it out through the hard season because I enjoy it and I want to breast feed my baby.

At the end of the day YOU’RE the MOM! If I have learned anything from having two kids, it’s to trust your mothers intuition AND not be afraid to seek advise. Go meet with that lactation consultant, talk with your pediatrcian, drink that lactation tea & eat those granola filled cookies, but don’t beat yourself up if those things don’t work for you. Mom guilt is REAL and with social media at an all time high, avoid the MOM GUILT and just do the BEST you can, whatever you’re BEST looks like!


#AFedBabyIsAHappyBaby #NoMoreMomGuilt





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  • Michelle

    Yes, so true! Thanks for posting. I wish I had heard this message more in my early mom days. Best wishes to you and your little one.

    June 21, 2017 at 11:58 am Reply

      YES!! I know it can be so hard, but its so important to do what it is best for you and the baby 🙂

      August 5, 2017 at 8:49 am Reply
  • abbie


    June 21, 2017 at 6:26 pm Reply
  • Morgan | The Pursuit of Play

    Thank YOU for writing this. I was heartbroken when I found out I was unable to breastfeed due to a medical condition. I beat myself up about it. I almost felt judged every time I had to get a bottle out! With my second, I knew fed was best and was able to breastfeed what I could and supplemented a lot.

    October 1, 2017 at 9:27 am Reply
  • Jacqueline

    I’m currently breastfeeding my 2nd baby but you couldn’t have said it better. There is way too much pressure to be the perfect mom. No such thing ladies. Do what’s right for you and baby, and forget the rest!

    October 1, 2017 at 6:20 pm Reply
  • Natalie

    Love that you brought up points from both sides. At the end of the day, a FED baby is most important!

    October 2, 2017 at 12:39 am Reply
  • Toya

    Great post, Alesha! I am fortunate enough to have breastfed all three of mine but by the they time they reached nine months or so I switched them over to formula and they are all just fine. Fed is best!

    October 3, 2017 at 2:43 pm Reply
  • Angel

    Truth momma! Fed is always best. However it’s accomplished!

    October 4, 2017 at 5:38 am Reply
  • Lisa

    So true, thank you for sharing. 🙂 Every baby is so different, what might work for one, must not work for another. We as there mothers have to find out what’s best for them. It was a hard decision for me to swap to formula (I used this one), but it made it possible to be a more happy and healthy mom, which results in a happy and healthy baby.

    October 10, 2017 at 3:51 pm Reply
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